Hero and Princess

My #1 piece of advice for couples is super simple:

Men, make your woman your Princess. Women, make your man your Hero.

Now before you go throwing sexism in my face, really give this a think… At the very core, women want to be cherished like the rare and beautiful jewels they are. We want our significant other to really see us, listen to us, support us, cheer for us, and care for us. At the very core, men want to be respected like the strong and sharp sword they are. They want their significant other to admire them, to praise them, want their protection, and want what they can provide. Once you understand the base need of your partner, (Women = Cherished, Men = Respected) you can start to see their behaviors and words in a whole new light. Maybe you can start to see how your behaviors and words are not meeting their need and sometimes even insulting their need.

Women, remember the qualities your man has that you admire - he is smart, funny, practical, handy, works hard, takes care of the yard, takes out the trash, whatever it is - make a list. Write them down. Every morning pick an item from your list and sometime that day, compliment or thank your man about that quality.

Men, find 5 minutes a day, ask your women how her day was. Look at her face the entire time she is talking. If she says, “Fine.” Ask her a more specific question: Were the kids good today? How was traffic? Did you have something yummy for lunch? Did you sleep good last night? Anything that will get her talking. For those 5 minutes, give her your undivided attention. Focus on her, listen to what she says, remember what she says.

Try this for 7 days. I promise you that you will see a difference in your relationship. Your significant other will probably question you as to why you are doing this. Tell them!